Conduct a “listening tour.” Interview three students about how they talk with their friends versus how they talk with teachers. Then, intentionally mirror one of their home communication structures (e.g., a rapid-fire debate format or a collective story-building exercise) in your next lesson. A Reading List for the Committed Educator For those ready to dive deeper, here is a starting syllabus:
“Better Than Carrots or Sticks: Restorative Practices for Positive Classroom Management” by Dominique Smith, Douglas Fisher, & Nancy Frey. Core Takeaway: Punitive communication (“Go to the principal’s office”) creates shame and resistance. Restorative communication uses affective statements and questions: “I felt frustrated when I saw the book torn. What happened? Who was affected? How can we repair the harm?” navigating classroom communication: readings for educators
Try a “No Hands Up” policy for 15 minutes. Instead of calling on volunteers, pose a question and give 30 seconds of “think time” before calling on a specific student. This shifts the dynamic from performance to reflection. 2. The Hidden Curriculum of Teacher Language The words we choose carry immense subtext. Saying “Why are you talking?” implies accusation. Saying “I notice you have a question” implies invitation. Responsive Classroom and Conscious Discipline emphasize that teacher language is the most powerful behavior management tool available. Conduct a “listening tour